Fleshlight vs Hand: How Do Fleshlights Feel Like?

If you haven’t tried a quality male masturbator like Fleshlight, you surely have a question – how good, realistic is it?

fleshlight versus hand illustration

I know, because I had the exact same question. My first experience with male masturbators was a cheap Ebay stroker and it was disappointing. It took years for me to try another masturbator. And now I regret it.

Fleshlight, Tenga, Kiiroo masturbators are something completely different than vagina, hand, or anything else. 

While I suggest you read the whole guide… My advice is – get one quality Fleshlight and you’ll never look back.

Don’t expect a mind-blowing, ethereal experience, but expect to be pleasantly surprised (def 3x upgraded handjob). 

But read on:

What Does A Fleshlight Feel Like? Does It Feel Like A Real Thing?

As I’ve mentioned, there are many different models of fleshlights with many different textures designed to give different pleasures experiences.

You can even pair it with a mount or accessory like the ones in this guide for a better experience.

I have to warn you: 

It doesn’t matter which texture or style you’ll choose; a fleshlight will never feel exactly the same as the real thing. 

However, it does feel amazing and can enhance your solo play quite a lot. 

When you’re not using it, the fleshlight feels wet and cold. It’s kind of sticky and squishy.

The material is very delicate, so you have to be careful with it when you’re handling it. 

It’s not recommended to use a fleshlight without lube or soaking it in the water first as it won’t feel good, and you can be disappointed. 

And you want to enhance your solo play experience, not ruin it, right?

Let’s look at how does fleshlight feels like compared with different parts of human flesh:

Fleshlight vs Hand

Fleshlight Vs Hand

I’m going to be very honest with you here:

If you’re going to compare the fleshlight with masturbating with your hand, fleshlight wins most of the time. 

While masturbating with your hand is the easiest and quickest way to masturbate, it gets boring very quickly. 

Fleshlight has a lot of different models with unique textures that make masturbation so much more pleasurable. 

It offers bumps, ridges, and bristles that your hand is not able to offer you, so if you want a step up from your hand, fleshlight might be the toy for you. 

Any fleshlight from any collection will be great for you, so go to their website and spend some time getting to know each model. 

What men are saying about fleshlight vs. hand on Reddit: 

If you’re thinking about getting one just get it. You won’t regret it.

Source: reddit user, damnBcanilive

I have the same experience: it’s definitely better than hand. At the least it will add variety to your masturbation experience.

Just don’t get cheap knockoff toy – either get a good Fleshlight or stick to the hand.

Fleshlight Vs Vagina

Fleshlight vs Vagina

Let’s move on to comparing the fleshlight with a real vagina. 

Here, I’m going to have to disappoint you: 

It does not feel like the real thing. 

Some men say that it does feel as close as a fake thing can come to feeling like a real vagina, and it’s all due to their signature SuperSkin material.

However, some men say that it doesn’t come anywhere close to the real vagina. 

So, I guess you’ll have to make your own judgment here. 

To me,however, it does feel close to the real thing – especially when mixed with a porn. I can easily convince myself I am having sex with the girl in the video by mimicking the thrusts happening there.

Now, one thing that does feel similar to a real vagina is penetration. 

Every fleshlight is designed in a way, where they all have a slight tightening at the entrance of it so that when you’re penetrating the sleeve, there is a bit of resistance. 

The same thing happens when you’re penetrating the vagina. 

Now, there are a few things you can do to make your fleshlight feel closer to a real vagina:

You can warm up the sleeve and the lube before each use, so it does feel more like the real thing. 

The easiest way to warm up the sleeve is by leaving it in the warm water as well as warming the lube the same way. 

Or you can use the Fleshlight Sleeve Warmer with the lube to heat things up a bit more. 

And if you want something that feels realistic, you might want to try the Classic Pink Lady model, get one here.

Here’s what other men are saying about fleshlight vs. vagina on Reddit:

“I bought one when i was married because my ex-wife was in the army and out of town a lot or I was gone to do school. It was great, the clean up was a little awkward but not bad.

The feeling was very close for me when you heat it up to the right temp. I came crazy quick. That said, nothing feels as good as being between those thighs, grabbing that ass and tits and squeezing while you lick all over each other and drool over each others tongues.

Fuck I love fucking.”

Source: Reddit user, DrLeoMarvin

“The sensation of penetration is somewhat similar, but there are key differences that make for a very different experience.”

Source: Reddit user, nubbeh123

Fleshlight Vs Blowjob

Fleshlight Vs Blowjob

Now, if you want to compare the fleshlight with a blowjob, I have to say that it can feel pretty similar. 

While no toy or machine out there will ever feel the same as the lips, mouth, and tongue combo in real life, fleshlight can simulate the feeling of the blowjob quite well. 

Fleshlight has a collection called Fleshlight Turbo that has sleeves designed specifically to imitate the feeling of a blowjob. 

So, if you’re looking for something that might replicate a blowjob, I would look into getting a fleshlight from this collection specifically.

I have written a guide in the past about the Turbo collection here, so do read it to see if it might be right for you.

And here’s what other men are saying about Fleshlight Turbo vs. blowjobs on Reddit:

Either the Thrust or the Ignition. They’re both pretty intense.

The Ignition is a little tighter and a little more textured. Most people equate it to a standard bj.

The Thrust is more smooth and most ppl equate it to a sloppy bj.

You can’t go wrong either way. So just pick your poison.

Source: reddit user, misterflyer

“I got a free turbo ignition from the BF sales, its quite like a BJ, and being able to thrust it all the way in for a “deepthroat” style feel is pretty nice. The feeling is also quite a change up from some of the FLG series sleeves so its pretty pleasurable.

The free floating “lip, tongue and throat” does a pretty good job to stimulate but of course its not going to be anything like a real BJ cause its just a toy. Definitely better than just the usual hand stuff, and its given out for free again with an arguably better Christmas sale, so no harm in getting one for free.

The only complaint is they made the rear cap angled for some unknown reason, and now it cant stand on both ends like a normal FLG case would be able to.”

Source: reddit user, Throwaway-Flyer

Fleshlight Vs sex

Fleshlight vs Sex

Similarly, like with the vagina, you can’t really compare fleshlight with sex. 

It’s two very different things and not only because fleshlight is plastic. 

During sex, there is the intimacy with a partner, more physical movement involved. 

There is kissing and touching involved that you can’t replicate with a fleshlight. 


While it’s never going to feel just like the real thing, you can do a few things to improve it. 

One of the things is that you can warm up the sleeve and the lube, so it gives that familiar warmth of the real vagina. 

And, you can prop your flashlight on a shoe or on your sofa, creating an experience where you have to move your body just like during sex and not only your hand. 

While it’s not going to make it feel like sex, it will improve the overall experience, and it might be a good thing to switch things up from time to time. 

Here is what other men have to say about fleshlight vs. sex on Reddit:

“It’s the tendency of men, particularly those without much experience, to think that the penis to vagina contact is the only relevant sensation in sex.

Toys are fine. Nothing wrong with playing with toys, at all. But, actual sex with someone you connect with is altogether different. The human body has nearly infinite ways to provide pleasure, and so the difference is sort of like taking a bath vs. swimming in the ocean.

The sights, sounds, smells, tastes, and sensations are a full-body experience. It’s not just your dick that experiences sex.”

Source: reddit user, intjpua

“It is a hell of a lot closer to the real thing than a hand, that is for sure.

Those who say it isn’t close at all I think are not considering just the physical sensation of it, but more comparing the total experience of sex with a woman to sex with a Fleshlight.

From a purely physical standpoint some Fleshlights are more stimulating than a vagina. They can be tighter and have all sorts of exotic shapes on the inside that are just obviously not possible for a real woman.

For example, I have one that I can barely use for more than a minute or two without finishing but can have sex with my partner for 20 or 30 minutes no problem. Still wouldn’t pick that over a roll in the sheets with the wife, though.”

Source: reddit user, Tyronymousrex

Is It OK To Use A Fleshlight?

So, now that you know how fleshlight feels compared to the real thing let’s talk about the stigma surrounding it. 

While most of the sex talk is still considered to be a taboo even in 2020, it’s way more acceptable for a woman to own a vibrator or a dildo than for a man to own a fleshlight. 

And it’s a very toxic mindset. 

There is absolutely nothing wrong with men owning and using fleshlights, so you don’t have to worry about being a ‘creep’. 

There are many benefits that come with using a fleshlight:

  • You can improve your sexual stamina so that you last longer during sex. 
  • You can improve your sensitivity issues by using it with a condom.
  • You can satisfy your massive sex drive or certain desires if your partner is just not capable or doesn’t have the same drive. 

So, as you can see, there are many benefits of using a fleshlight that can actually improve your sex life. 

There is nothing wrong with men using fleshlights the same way there is nothing wrong with you using any other sex toy as long as you’re not hurting anyone. 

What people are saying about this stigma on Reddit:

“May partner has a few. I think they’re cool.

He’s a bit embarrassed about it, mostly due to the social stigma attached to them. But I don’t see any difference between his toys and mine.

There’s a (in my opinion, bad) double standard when it comes to men using sex toys for pleasure. Our society looks down on the idea of the lonely, single, guy who watches porn and uses a fleshlight.

And, while I agree there can be negatives when it comes to obsessive behaviors, using a fleshlight doesn’t automatically mean a person has issues. If used in a healthy way, sexual release with the assistance of toys is just that- sexual play.”

Source: reddit user, Theodaro

“I’m all in favor of sex toys. Fleshlights, prostate massagers, rings, vibes, electro sex stuff, whatever. As long as it’s not getting in the way of your life, have a little fun.”

Source: reddit user, 2hatsrbetterthan1


So, here you have it – everything you need to know about how the fleshlight feels like compared with the real thing. 

If you’ve ever wondered how it compares with sex real vagina, now you know, and I hope that it helped you make up your mind about whether it’s worth getting it or not.

I think it’s always worth experimenting and trying new things when it comes to improving your sex life. 

So, if you’re interested, don’t be shy and get one for yourself!

Want to check out how Fleshlight compares to other products? Check out our Fleshlight vs Tenga guide.

Dainis Graveris

Dainis Graveris

With over 2 year experience working in a local adult toy store Dainis has gathered quite a bit of experience about helping people find the best for their needs. He's also a top writer on Quora (7M views, 2.3K followers) and has written over 70+ guides on SexualAlpha. Read More

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