5 Big dick Problems & How To Solve Them in 2021

And here you thought having a big penis is a dream come true, but there is a reason why big dick problems is an expression. It presents quite a bit of challenge…

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First of all, how to know if you have a big penis?

Well, average penis size is 5 – 6″ according to countless studies. This means that anything larger than 6″ could be considered a big penis: 7 inches, 8 inches, 9 inches.

2013 study1 published in Journal of Sexual Medicine concluded that:

  • Only 15% of men have over 7-inch penis
  • Only 3% of men have over 8-inch penis

Also, you will be surprised to hear that a new research study2 discovered that most women prefer average size penises, and the more important factor is the girth of the penis than length.

penis size preference for women vs men

Here you were thinking how awesome would it be to have a big penis, but it turns out there are many challenges guys with big dick face.

What Problems Massive Dick Owners Experience & How To Solve Them

If you’ve ever had a problem in life or complains from your partner during sex, you officially qualify as a big dick owner. Welcome!

But if you’re serious about measuring your size correctly, here’s how medical professionals recommend you do it.

visual graphic how to measure your penis length and girth

Your Partner Finds Sex With You Painful Or Unbearable

When you’re big the first time sex with a girl is a challenge. Some girls are scared from big size and will find it a deal-breaker to even give it a try.

With that being said, yes you need to be careful when picking the girl in the first place. Too short of the girl and there will be no way you’ll ever fit in there.

But if you have average height girl you can do quite a bit to make sexual intercourse possible and even enjoyable.

Check this ACOG guide (American College of Obstetricians and Gynaecologists) for more information on how to avoid painful sex, but here are few pointers: 3

  1. Ensure your penis and her vagina is well lubricated – good water-based lube like Sliquid H20 will help a lot to avoid vagina irritation and make the thrusting a lot more pleasurable.
  2. Spent a lot of time to arouse her – Learn about her erogenous zones and before intercourse spent a while to get her hot and horny.
  3. Take it slow – It will take a while for her to be able to take your full length if at all. Go very slow initially or better yet let her control the pace and insertion depth till she is stretched enough to take you in.
  4. Talk to her – prepare for lots of talking, trial & error till you find the best positions for her and the ways to make sex enjoyable for her.
  5. Consider getting OhNut penis limiter – it’s basically like having several cock rings over your penis that ensure that you don’t accidentally go too deep. You can enjoy the play and she can too without worries. It’s a big deal, it has helped thousands of couples where big penis size is an issue. Oh, and with code SEXUALALPHA you’ll get $7 off your purchase.
ohnut penis limiter to fix big penis problem
Ohnut home page: Sex doesn’t have to be a pain.

The last thing you want to do is to attack her with your big penis causing trauma and bad associations.

Also, be creative – you don’t always need to use your penis. Use fingers, smaller sex toys first – work her up to a larger size!

But here’s the final tip: it’s a lot easier to find a woman who is a size queen and prefers big size than a tight girl to learn to enjoy sex with you.

Why make job harder than it is? Look for easy win instead!

Family Sleepovers & Getting Up in The Morning Is A Stealth Mission

If average penis owner can easily hide the morning boner, it’s a challenge when you’ve got massive hard penis under the sheets.

This gets increasingly harder if you’re sharing the room with girls. Be prepared to hide behind thick clothes, a towel or wrapping yourself in a blanket till the wood goes away.

Here’s a quick story of the challenge:

The worst is when you wake up with morning wood that is rock hard and its practically breaking your underwear and your dick.

I sleep naked almost every night because of this. I’m still 15 so my morning wood is crazy hard. Last time I fell asleep with clothes on was the other night when I was having a sleepover, and even then I was wearing loose gym shorts. Of course my friend saw my bulge the next morning and his mouth fell open in surprise—it’s impossible to hide my morning wood haha.

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Normal Condoms Don’t Fit (You Need To Look For XL Condom Makers)

To buy good fit condoms you need to carefully measure your erect length and girth (circumference).

You won’t be able to buy XL condoms in general store or pharmacy, you’ll need to order them.

The best known XL condom maker is Trojan with it’s Magnum XL condoms. You can also order custom-fit condoms from MyOne (up to 64 mm width) or TheyFit brands (up to 69 mm width).

Here’s a story how a man struggled with small condoms when he didn’t know he needed bigger size:

“I remember when I had just met my girlfriend and we would wanna have sex. I’d lose my erection in less than a minute. She thought I had ED, and so did I. I lived with this false notion for one whole year…!

Next times condoms all broke within minutes of penetration. Literally 100% of the condom’s I used with my first girlfriend broke.

Strangely enough, for some reason we didn’t think to try a different type, just eventually stopped using condoms.

Really bummed I didn’t know better back then, might have found decent condoms and avoided building up this huge psychological barrier to the idea of them.”

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Normal Underwear Isn’t Comfortable or Attracts Too Much Attention

You knew that girls with big breasts have their own set of challenges, but the same thing happens to big dick owners.

Hanging out in swimming wear, bathhouse or even while walking around – a normal underwear isn’t comfortable.

The same way you need to carefully consider what kind of jeans, shorts to wear to avoid extra attention.

Here are few tips:

  • Dark colors will hide big bulges a lot more than light colors
  • Thicker, good fit (not too loose, not too tight) fabrics are less revealing – jeans might be the best.
  • Get sports underwear for comfortable day-to-day wear.
  • Wear a longer sports jacket or shirt to disguise your crotch area.
how to hide bulge in underwear

Here’s a story from a real life:

“When I lived in Korea two Korean friends brought me to a bathhouse. In these places underwear/swimsuit/swimtrunks etc are forbidden. As a westerner and a shower It felt like everyone just stared at me.

Later that night we met up some friends for dinner and after some drinking one of the girls asked how I liked the traditional bathhouse. Usually many foreigners are uncomfortable in those places. And one guy said “I think he made the others there uncomfortable”. She asked if I misbehaved? Everyone just stared at her in silence a few seconds until another girl whispered something in her ear and she went “oooh, her eyes went wide open and stared at me”.


You Cannot Use Most Sex Toys

The same challenge comes with masturbators you want to use – either penis is too girthy or too long.

Here’s a good story that explains it best:

Years ago, I bought a generic pocket pussy. I got all ready to go but had one of those “it won’t fit” moments. I got the head of my penis in and when I tried to push further I blew my load instantly (it was more wet and tight than any vagina could be, literally juiced me). While I sat there in a puddle of lube and jizz (the other end of the toy had a “butthole,” no wider than a golf pencil, which my load comically spurt out of), I began to consider my life decisions.

I really wish they made and advertised good sex toys to well endowed men (at last measure right at 7.25x 6.125). Until then, those inexperienced among us (myself included at the time) will all sit back and wonder why our dicks won’t fit in normal sized toys.

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To prevent this you really need to carefully check the measurements upfront and/or choose open ended toys.

Fun Factory Manta For Vibrations

This is a vibrator made specifically for men. Because it has wings you can use it to enclose penis and stroke it this way.

It helps to learn that male frenulum is similar to female clitoris. If you tickle it long enough it will become so sensitive you can even cum from it.

Fleshlight Quickshot Vantage

This stroker is very affordable and is half the size of the original Fleshlight. It’s open-ended design allows to use any length penis though if you’re girthy it still might be a stretch.

Another ninja tip is to use Quickshot stroker during sex. For example, she could give you a blowjob while using the masturbator on your penis.

In this way she doesn’t need to be a deepthroating expert, and she can still give you a mind-blowing blowjob.

Oh, and if you still want to use full-size Fleshlight. Just use the sleeve without a hard case, maybe cut back the fins in the entrance, use plenty of lube and it will work.

Finally, if you’re really girthy consider Bad Dragon’s Duke’s Muzzle masturbator – it’s the girthiest and roomiest masturbator (but a lot more expensive than Quickshot).

Read Standalone Fleshlight Quickshot Review Here

Bringing It All Together

So there you go, the challenges and how to solve them.

Also, I would really recommend joining the likeminded communities like this subreddit BigDickProblems.

It helps to know you are not alone and that other guys have had the same big dick problems that they’ve solved.

Finally, a fun fact: did you know that the world’s biggest dick belongs to Jonah Falcon?

He’s swinging 13.5″ big dong and while he has many challenges, many Holywood celebrities have specifically sought him out because of his famed member.

So it’s not all bad!


  1. Nadia-Elysse Harris (2013). “Research Indicates Mode Of Inducing Arousal Could Influence Size”. Medical Daily. https://www.medicaldaily.com/average-american-mans-penis-56-inches-long-research-indicates-mode-inducing-arousal-could-influence.
  2. Heather Hoffmann (2015). “Women’s Preferences for Penis Size: A New Research Method Using Selection among 3D Models”. National Center for Biotechnology Information. https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4558040/.
  3. “When Sex Is Painful”. American College of Obstetricians and Gynecologists. https://www.acog.org/patient-resources/faqs/gynecologic-problems/when-sex-is-painful.
Dainis Graveris

Dainis Graveris

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