11 Best Prostate Dildos [2021]: P Spot Dildos For Orgasms Ranked & Reviewed

Finding the best prostate dildo for you is a challenge. Everyone is different, which is why we reviewed 11 anal dildos for men for different p spot needs. You’ll find the right one for you here. Read on:

Every journey starts with the right equipment.

Uhm, not selling some outdoor gear here or something. But if you’re on the quest to achieve full-body eyes-rolled-back kind of prostate orgasms, then you need to find the right toy.

Stimulating the prostate requires practice, but using the right dildo gets 1/3 of the job done.

Now just like any other toy, what worked for me might not work for you.

But I’ll share 11 of the best manual and vibrating prostate toys that work for most folks, so you find one that’ll rev up the orgasmic ride of your life. Ready?

Here’s the TL;DR of our top 3 recommended choices:

SquarePeg Leo: Best Soft Dildo for Pegging

If you want a super soft, realistic prostate dildo because you’re sensitive to intense textures, then get SquarePegToys Leo Harness.

It has a tapered head for easy insertion, a curved shape for P-spot stimulation, and nine different sizes to choose from for beginners to ultimate size royals.

It’s the best soft dildo for pegging, plus it’s super flexible that it moves with your body comfortably during solo anal play.

Blush Neo & Ergo: Best Value for Price

Now, if you’re looking for your first dual-density dildo or want to move from beginner or intermediate butt plugs to prostate dildos, then I highly recommend Blush Neo Elite (more realistic shaped) & Ergo (less realistic shaped) dildos.

For under $50, you’re getting a high-quality dildo that’s soft on the outside but firm enough on the inside for a comfy solo or harness play experience.

Blush N5: Best Vibrating

But if you’re looking for intense thrusting+vibrating altogether in a dildo, then get Blush Impressions N5 dildo.

It’s a smooth and thick semi-phallic sex toy with a bulbous head that’s perfect for sending pinpoint stimulation to the prostate.

It has twice more vibration functions than the average vibrator that resonates throughout the shaft, giving you a feeling of fullness plus pressure from the head.


Top 3 Prostate Dildos in 2021

Blush Neo Elite & Ergo

4.5/5

Price: $
Shape: Phallic & semi-phallic
Type: Dual-density dildo
Material: Platinum silicone
Insertable Length: 4.5″-5.5″
Girth: 4.4″-4.5″
Other Features: With suction cup base, some with balls

SquarePeg Leo Harness

4.7/5

Price: $$
Shape: Phallic
Type: Soft dildo
Material: Platinum silicone
Insertable Length: 4″-9″
Girth: 4″-9.5″
Other Features: Three sizes with suction cup base

Blush Impressions N5

4.6/5

Price: $$
Shape: Semi-phallic
Type: Vibrating dildo
Material: Platinum silicone
Insertable Length: 5.5″
Girth: 4.7″
Other Features: 10 vibration functions, with suction cup base, waterproof, rechargeable


Best Prostate Dildos in 2021 (Vibrating and Manual)

1. SquarePeg Leo Harness

Best soft dildo for pegging

Price: $$$ | Total Length: 5.5″ (XS)-13″ (King) | Insertable Length: 4″ (XS)-9″ (King) | Girth: 4″ (XS)-9.5″ (King) | Shape: Phallic | Type: Soft dildo | Material: Platinum silicone | Size Option(s): 9 | Color(s): Bronze, chestnut, graphite (3) | Other Features: Three sizes with suction cup base

  • Realistic detailing looks and feels good
  • Super-soft silicone for more sensitive users
  • Bigger sizes can be a tad difficult to insert for some folks

Leo Harness from SquarePegToys is the softest silicone dildo we’ve tested by far that’s best for pegging and stimulating the prostate.

It’s very flexible that it moves with your body easily, making for a comfortable anal play experience. You can even fold it in half and squeeze it as much as you like (if that’s your thing). 

It’s cast from a real-life penis with super-realistic detailing, skin texturing, and bulging veins.

All this texturing adds to the sensation during anal play — not the super hard and painful kind as the toy thrusts in and out. But more on comfy and pleasurable sensations, thanks to its super-soft medical grade silicone material.

That means Leo is perfect for you if you’re sensitive to texture and want to explore toys of varying sizes, especially the extra-large ones that’ll give you a comfy stretch.

It has a tapered head for easy insertion and a curved shape for P-spot stimulation.

You can choose from one realistic flesh-like color (chestnut) to two gorgeous metallic colors. There are 9 size options in total, starting with the average-sized XS with around 5.5″ of insertable length to the thicker and bigger 13″ King-size for the ultimate size royal.

I’m pretty comfortable between the small XS sizes, but the actual size is already big for me. And with 1X, you’re starting to get really stretched.

Only small, actual size, and 1X have a suction cup base for some hands-free action. The suction is pretty powerful for these three sizes. However, 1X will have issues standing on its own because of how soft and top-heavy Leo is.

It’ll be hard to sit on it or use it during vigorous thrusting, so make sure that you guide the toy using your hand or have your partner use it on you from behind.

The other six sizes have flat bases. Whichever size you choose, all of them are harness-compatible. Just keep in mind that larger, softer sex toys will be harder to thrust with and insert.

Once it’s in, though, the feeling is really good. If you’re looking for something thicker of average length, you might want to check their Mel Harness dildos. There are also Steve Harness dildos that are much thicker but shorter. 


2. Blush Impressions N5

Best vibrating dildo

Price: $$ | Total Length: 8.25″ | Insertable Length: 5.5″ | Girth: 4.7″ | Shape: Semi-phallic | Type: Vibrating dildo | Material: Medical grade silicone | Size Option(s): 1 | Color(s): Crimson | Other Features: Waterproof, USB rechargeable; 5 steady vibration speeds, 5 vibration patterns; with suction cup base

  • Waterproof, submersible to take in the bath or shower
  • Powerful vibrations give a feeling of fullness
  • Deep rumbly vibes can get pretty intense and loud

Vibrating dildos with strong suction cup bases are pretty hard to find. But once you find them, they’re going to be on the pricier side.

I was surprised by Blush Impressions N5 because it ticked all the right boxes for just below
$100. If you’re looking for something you can thrust that vibrates, then this is it.

The N5 is a smooth and thick semi-phallic vibrating dildo with a bulbous head perfect for sending pinpoint stimulation to the prostate.

Users new to anal play may find the bold head imposing. Plus, the firmer silicone dildo with an inner vibrating motor doesn’t bend that much.

But these two are the perfect ingredients to make inserting the toy easy (with ample lube, of course). And once it’s in, the smoothness makes thrusting the sex toy in and out seamless.

The vibrations on the N5 are pretty strong. You’re getting 10 powerful vibration functions in total. THAT’S 2X MORE THAN THE AVERAGE VIBRATOR!

These powerful vibrations are great for intense prostate massage. Just keep in mind that the higher the steady vibe functions, the buzzier and louder they get.

The vibrations are not focused on the tip of the dildo but throughout the shaft. So, you’re gonna get that feeling of fullness in addition to the focused pressure your prostate’s getting from the head.

It’s not the most realistic shape, so this is for you if you want to have some vibin’ good time without thinking that another person’s schlong is thrusting inside you.

The suction cup base is pretty strong, even with vibrations on the highest speed settings. That means you can go for hands-free intense thrusts without worrying that the prostate toy will fall over.

You can even use it with a harness or a compatible fuck machine for more focused P-spot pressure.


3. Blush Neo Elite & Ergos

Best value for price

Price: $ | Total Length: 6″-8″ | Insertable Length: 4.5″-5.5″ | Girth: 4.4″-5.5″ | Shape: Phallic (Neo Elite); Semi-phallic (Ergos) | Type: Dual-density dildo | Material: Platinum medical grade silicone | Size Option(s): 3 | Color(s): Neon pink, neon green, neon blue, neon orange (4 – Neo Elite); Violet, indigo (2 – Ergos) | Other Features: With suction cup base; with or without balls

  • Comes in a range of fun colors with glow-in-the-dark variants
  • Quality dual-density dildos for a low price great for beginners
  • Strong suction cup base for solo, partner, harness, and hands-free action
  • Colors may be off-putting for some folks

Blush Novelties Neo Elite dildos are the best dual-density dildos that you’ll get for under 50 bucks. Plus, they come in a variety of brilliant colors and sizes.

What? Are you serious? $30-$40 a pop?” Yup, that’s what I said too when I got my hands on these neon-colored dual-density goodies. But let me tell you something…

Though some may find the colors too much, the overall look and feel of these dildos are amazing. Plus, they’re average-sized, making your experience comfortable.

If you’re looking for your first dual-density dildo or want to move from beginner or intermediate butt plugs to prostate dildos, then I highly recommend these.

These dildos feel like the real thing. They’re the right blend of soft and flexible on the outside for comfortable anal play and firm enough on the inside for vigorous thrusting and harness play.

The overall skin-like texturing and veins are very stimulating for anal play. The 7.5” variants are particularly veiny that they rub against your sphincters oh-so-good.

Neo Elite has four size variants, starting with the average girth, below-average length 6″ variant, and the above-average girth, average length 7″ variant. Both are straight-shaped with balls.

But I recommend the 7.5″ (without balls) if you’re looking for deeper penetration of average girth. It has a tapered head for easy insertion and a forward curve for P-spot stimulation.

You can also get the 7.5″ (with balls) that has a good curve but with a more pronounced corona for pinpoint P-spot stimulation. There are also glow-in-the-dark 7.5″ variants if you want to get your freak on at night.

But if you’re looking for the same quality, cheap dual-density dildos that are less realistic with fewer textures, you can check their Ergo line.

All Ergo dildos have a forward angle and a flat ridge to stimulate the prostate. Plus, they feel comfortably soft yet not too bendy while thrusting in.

Ergo D7 and D8 are for folks looking for something thicker of average length. But if you’re a beginner looking for your first pegging sex toy, you can check their Ergo Mini D9 and D10. They’re still of average length but more on the slimmer side.


4. Mr. Hankey’s Seahorse

Best Bad Dragon type fantasy dildo, most customizable

Price: $$$ | Total Length: 10″ (S)-17″ (XXXL) | Insertable Length: 8.75″ (S)-14″ (XXXL) | Girth: 7″ (S)-12″ (XXXL) | Shape: Phallic, heavily textured | Type: Fantasy dildo | Material: Platinum medical grade silicone | Size Options: 5 | Color(s): Natural tan, metallic green, deep brown, black (4) | Other Features: Can add Vac-u-Hole; with balls

  • Great textures and options for intense sensations
  • Can customize size, color, and firmness
  • Heavy texturing can overwhelm users new to anal play

If you can’t get enough of textures or want to explore more textures and sizes, then fantasy dildos are right up your alley. And in this category, I can’t recommend Mr. Hankey’s toys enough.

Mr. Hankey offers high-quality silicone dildos with the most customizable options, size ranges, and firmness. You can even check their website, choose from various fantasy dildo types to the more realistic ones that can go up to 3X the size of average dildos!

My personal fave is the Seahorse dildo that’s super textured with bumps, ridges, and rubs. It has a tapered tip for easy insertion and balls for easy grip when used during solo or partner play.

You’ll feel every pop of each ridge as the toy slides inside you. But it’s still up to you if you want to go as shallow or as deep as you want with it.

You can choose from 5 different sizes – small, medium, large, XXL, and XXXL. Just keep in mind that their small size is more than the average size.

So, if you want texture but are still new to prostate play, go with the smallest size. Then, as you progress and eventually bud into a size royal, you can go all the way to size XXXL.

There’s also the option to add a Vac-u-Hole if you want non-stop thrusting action from your fuck machine. They are also harness-compatible from the small to the large sizes. (Note: Extra-large sizes not included.)

Just keep in mind that the balls make these dildos a tad heavier to wield.

Also, as you go bigger and customize your Hankey’s sex toys more, expect to PAY MORE. But still, Mr. Hankey offers the best pound-per-quality silicone deal on the market by far.


5. We-Vibe Vector

Best prostate vibrator with remote control

Price: $$ | Total Length: 4.29″ | Insertable Length: 4″ | Girth: 3.77″ | Shape: C-shaped | Type: Vibrating prostate massager | Material: Silicone | Size Options: 1 | Color(s): Slate (1) | Other Features: Waterproof, rechargeable, adjustable, app- and remote-controlled, with 10 vibration modes

  • Stimulates both prostate and perineum
  • Narrower girth, best for beginners
  • Discreet anal toy for public play
  • Unreliable magnetic charging cable

Prostate dildos require a lot of thrusting action from you or your partner. If you want to give your hands some rest and let pleasant vibrations stimulate your prostate, then you’ll need a prostate massager.

If you’re looking for a versatile prostate massager that offers more features than most products on the market, then the We-Vibe Vector is what you need.

What’s interesting about Vector is that it’s like the result of throwing a bunch of all the good stuff from other prostate massagers minus the bad. Here’s why…

Unlike most prostate massagers on the market, Vector has a narrower girth with a tapered tip that makes inserting the toy very easy — perfect for folks new to prostate massage.

It has an adjustable arm like Lovense Edge, so you can find the best angle to stimulate your prostate. And once you find that angle, the toy stays in that shape and won’t move.

The flexible perineum arm is made from silky smooth silicone material that makes long-term comfortable wear possible.

There are two powerful motors: one to stimulate the prostate and the other to stimulate the perineum, for more chances of hitting full-body prostate Os.

You can cycle through 10 different vibration modes by pressing the toy’s power button.

OR use the wireless remote control to adjust the intensity (up and down buttons) and vibration modes (left and right buttons).

OR control the motors separately and customize vibrations by downloading and using the We-Connect app on any compatible device.

See how versatile the Vector is? You can even give your partner control over it or use it during public play because of its quiet-enough vibrations.

The app still needs some improvement, though. So, if you’re looking for a more stable app with more features, get the Lovense Edge 2.

If Vector’s too small for you, there’s the thicker, more powerful Lelo Hugo (and maybe look at Lelo Loki Wave prostate toy). Oh, and there’s Nexus Revo with the rotating beads that feels like a real finger is inside you and encircling your prostate.

For more deets on alternatives, you can check our prostate massager guide.


6. Vixen Mustang

Best prostate dildo for pegging

Price: $$ | Total Length: 7″ | Insertable Length: 6.25″ | Girth: 4.7″ | Shape: Phallic | Type: Dual-density dildo | Material: Platinum silicone | Size Options: 1 | Color(s): Caramel, vanilla, chocolate, tie-bright, flour-a-green (5) | Other Features: With suction base; harness compatible

  • Carefully handcrafted high-quality dual-density dildo
  • Excellent curve and head to hit the P-spot
  • Warms and retains body heat well
  • Suction is not that powerful when placed on a wall or any vertical surface
  • Attracts dirt and lint easily

No prostate dildo list will be complete without the OG creators of dual-density dildos — Vixen Creations. And for us, the Vixen Mustang is still the best prostate dildo for pegging.

Although it’s on the pricier side of the dual-density dildo market, you’re 100% sure of its quality. Its poured platinum silicone gives unique coloring for the non-realistic color options. Plus, it warms and retains body heat quite well.

The shaft is curved well to hit your P-spot, while the pronounced head is super squishy so that it doesn’t feel uncomfortable hitting your prostate.

And just below the corona, there’s another ridge that gives a good pop once you insert the toy inside you. The shaft has veins that add to the stimulation, especially as the toy thrusts in and out of you.

It’s average-sized, so it’s great for beginners or more experienced users looking for a comfortable pegging experience.

But if you’re looking for a cheaper alternative from Vixen, there’s the single-density Leo dildo.

For almost half of Mustang’s price, you’re getting around the same length, thickness, curve, and pronounced head as it. Plus, some realistic detailing on the head only and a smooth shaft.

If you’re looking for something thicker than the Mustang, you can try the uncut Ranger (5.5-6″ thick) that comes with a suction cup base for stronger suction for more hands-free action.

But if you’re all about stretching without going deep, then there’s the thick and short Randy. It’s still curved for P-spot stim but with an astounding 7″ girth with only 5.5″ of insertable length.


7. Uberrime Splendid dildos

Semi-realistic, nice colors

Price: $$ | Total Length: 6.25″ (M)-8″ (L) | Insertable Length: 5.7″ (M)-7.5″ (L) | Girth: 5″ (M)-6.5″ (L) | Shape: Phallic | Type: Dual-density dildo | Material: Platinum silicone | Size Options: 2 | Color(s): Pearl blue, pearl rose, pearl violet, pearl green, black, amethyst-pearl white, pearl turquoise to pearl white (7) | Other Features: Suction base; harness-compatible

  • Artisan platinum dildos — no two dildos will look alike
  • Firmer dual-density dildos for faster thrusts
  • Subtle texturing not for texture fanatics

If you’re looking for a semi-realistic dual-density dildo that offers a nice range of colors, you might want to check Uberrime’s Splendid dildos.

You can choose from 5 gorgeous pearlescent colors for the medium- and large-sized variants (plus 2 two-tone colors). And I tell you, they’re unlike other dildo colors on the market because of how in-house artisans handcraft each one.

Splendid has a forward curve and prominent head that works best at hitting the P-spot.

You can choose from two different sizes — medium and large. BUT FYI, THESE DILDOS ARE THICK!

I recommend the medium size if you’re new to anal stretching:

But if you want more stretch, then go with the large size.

Unlike Splendid in medium, the large variant has two large ridges. One, the coronal ridge, and two, the secondary ridge just below the corona.

They give a good pop-pop sound, adding to the experience. Also, the flared base is super sticky.

So, even if there’s no suction cup, you can ride these dildos HANDS-FREE!

Its firm core and soft enough outer layer are great for getting fast and hard thrusts with a harness.

Because Splendid dildos are on the firmer end of the dual-density dildo spectrum, you can achieve more focused P-spot stimulation. Plus, there’s subtle, vein-like texturing that adds a bit to the overall sensations.


8. Tantus P-spot

Best for beginners

Price: $ | Total Length: 8.25″ | Insertable Length: 7.25″ | Girth: 5.34″ | Shape: Non-phallic | Type: Firm dildo | Material: Silicone | Size Options: 1 | Color(s): Black (1) | Other Features: Flared base; comes with a bullet vibrator

  • Great for folks looking for dildos that don’t look like a real penis
  • More sensations from curved shaft and bullet vibe
  • Weak vibrations from the bullet vibrator

Tantus P-spot is a firm, non-phallic silicone dildo that’s great for beginners — prostate dildo beginners. NOT users who have never had any anal play experience or never even tried inserting a finger inside their anus.

If you’ve tried butt plugs and want to start pegging or are new to prostate massage, then this can be a good starter toy. 

It only comes in one color and size, though. But it does comfortably open you up with ample lube. And its uniquely curved, firm shaft targets and massages your prostate with every thrust.

It has a larger head for focused P-spot stimulation and smooth ridges on the shaft for different levels of stimulation.

The silicone is on the firmer, slightly flexible side, so thrusting in can still be comfortable without losing some pressure.

According to Tantus, you’re supposed to use the lower half of the toy as a handle to find the P-spot or for your partner to control the toy.

However, you still get the final say on how deep you want the toy to be inside you. I’ve tried going all in, and the toy stretched me well. Plus, I felt full. 

If you buy the Tantus P-spot, you’re ALSO getting a waterproof bullet vibrator. You can put it inside the dildo for extra stimulation.

You can choose from three vibration speeds: low, high, and pulsating. The vibrations are not too powerful, IMHO. It doesn’t resonate throughout the shaft, but you can use it during pegging.

PRO TIP: Put the bullet vibe inside the harness pocket to give your pegging partner some pleasurable vibes. WIN-WIN, eh?


9. Lovehoney Slimline Glass Dildo

Best glass prostate dildo

Price: $ | Total Length: 7″ | Insertable Length: 6.5″ | Girth: 3.5″ | Shape: Phallic | Type: Glass dildo | Material: Borosilicate glass | Size Options: 1 | Color(s): Clear (1) | Other Features: Flared, flat base

  • Compatible with all types of lube
  • Comes with a pouch for safe storage
  • Only comes in one size and color

If you’re looking for solid anal thrusts, then you need a glass dildo. And I recommend Lovehoney’s Slimline Textured Glass Dildo made from borosilicate glass.

Unlike other glass dildos on the market, it’s less likely to get cracks and chips. It’s even compatible with all types of lube.

Plus, it’s the best toy for temperature play. You can submerge it in hot water or cold water for 10-15 minutes and use it.

It has defined textures on the head and shaft for added sensations. And it’s curved for P-spot stimulation.

It’s best for beginners who want a deep and hard massage without being too girthy because the head and body are the SAME sizes.

Although it has a flared base, it’s a tad difficult to control because of its thinness and being slippery. So, it’s best to use it with a harness.


10. Aneros Helix Syn Trident

Best for P-spot precise targeting

Price: $$ | Total Length: 4″ | Insertable Length: 4″ | Girth: 3″ | Shape: Non-phallic, ridged | Type: Prostate massager | Material: Silicone, ABS plastic | Size Options: 1| Color(s): Black with red and white tabs (1)

  • Covered with velvety soft silicone material for comfortable extended wear
  • Easy-to-insert beginner butt plug
  • Size and angle might not work for all folks

There’s no way for this list to reach the bottom if I don’t mention any Aneros toys. After all, Aneros folks were the ones who started the whole hands-free prostate massager craze.

There’s a whole range of Aneros prostate massagers on the market.

Given their expensive price tag, it sucks that you have to buy at least 3-4 before you find the best size or angle that works for your prostate.

But if you’re looking for a beginner-friendly, hands-free massager to target your prostate, then Aneros Helix Syn Trident is your best bet. Unlike other Aneros toys, this has a smaller head that makes insertion so much easier.

Plus, just the right shape and size for internal prostate massage and flexible arms for external perineum stimulation.

Because it’s covered in soft silicone, you can use it for an extended time, during the night, or throughout the day. You can even use it during solo play or sex if you’re looking for firm but comfortable pressure on your P-spot.

You can also use the discount code SEXUALALPHA10 for 10% off on the Aneros website.


11. Njoy Pure Wand

Best for pros

Price: $$ | Total Length: 10″ | Insertable Length: 8″ | Girth: 3.14″ (smaller bulb), 4.7″ (bigger bulb) | Shape: Curved | Type: Double-ended steel dildo | Material: Medical-grade stainless steel | Size Options: 1 | Color(s): Silver (1)

  • Ergonomic design
  • Heavyweight to apply desired pressure on your prostate
  • Compatible with all lubes
  • Pricey

Njoy Pure Wand is the best toy for pro prostate manual play. A lot of folks have been raving about how it’s given them the most G-spot and prostate orgasms.

I have to agree with targeting the P-spot because the weight + angle just works for precise targeting.

It’s heavy enough, so you can apply enough pressure on your prostate without putting in a lot of effort. And it’s curved, so you (or your partner) don’t need to arch your wrist or hand in weird positions to stimulate the prostate.

Of course, you need to have enough anal play experience to get the best results. The size of the big bulb is quite intimidating, so first-timers be warned.

It’s dual-ended with two different-sized bulbs. So you can use whatever works for you best.

If you’re a beginner, it’s best to start with the smaller bulb to warm up, then proceed with the bigger bulb.


Should I Bother With A Prostate Massager Or Just Use A Prostate Dildo?

Prostate dildos and prostate massagers are two completely different things. Here’s the lowdown starting with prostate dildos.

A curved dildo that’s angled upward can be used to stroke your prostate or your partner’s. For some penis owners on the receiving end, using a prostate dildo is all about the actual thrusting and the feeling of fullness.

However, some don’t get off from that or get prostate Os. So, here comes prostate massagers.

A prostate massager requires a bit of practice and effort to stimulate the P-spot. But when you do make it work, you’ll likely experience full-body prostate orgasms that are so much different from dildo play.

Can’t decide between the two? If stretch and depth from a dildo turn you on with or without achieving prostate Os, then go with a dildo.

But if you want serious P-play and get more excited by the thought of hands-free prostate stim, get a prostate massager.

What about vibrating dildos? They’re still technically dildos, so they’re for you if you want both thrusting sensations and vibrations to get off.

My advice? Before getting all fancy, start with a simple non-vibrating dildo and see where it takes you.

Whichever path you choose, always go with quality silicone toys you can afford. Most cheap, low-quality toys will bring you disappointment. Sometimes, pricy toys too.

At the end of the day, you’re the master of your mind, body, and pleasure. Only you know what’s right for you, which entails some experimenting and having some fun in-between.


How to Choose The Right Softness, Material, and Size For Me?

If you want a variety of softness/firmness levels for your prostate/anal play experience, go with silicone prostate dildos.

Silicone dildos are non-porous, body-safe, phthalate-free anal sex toys that can range from soft and squishy to like the real thing to very hard.

All silicone dildos on our list are either single-density or dual-density dildos.

Single-density dildos are composed of one layer of silicone of the same firmness.

There are super soft and squishy prostate dildos great for more sensitive folks, those who want a more subtle texture, or those who want more comfort from extra-large toys.

There’s SquarePegToys lineup of Leo, Mel, and Steve harness dildos that look like the real thing but are still super comfy and move with your body once inside.

On the other hand, there are firmer options for intense thrusting, textures, and pinpoint P-spot stimulation like the Tantus P-spot dildo that’s firmer but still has some squish to it.

And Blush Impressions N5 that houses a vibrating motor inside.

If you’re looking for a prostate dildo that feels just like the real thing, then go with dual-density silicone dildos. They’re made of two layers of silicone: a soft outer layer and a firm inner layer.

For folks on a budget, you can check Blush Neo Elite dual-density dildos that are more realistic-looking minus the colors.

Or go with Blush Novelties Ergo dildos that are thicker, less realistic, and with a more pronounced head.

If money is not an issue, you can try the cult fave Vixen Mustang dildo with a curved shape and a prominent squishy head for prostate play.

But if you prefer firmer, extra-hard penetration and more pressure on your prostate, then glass and stainless steel dildos are your best options.

Borosilicate glass dildos are smooth, sturdy, and aesthetically pleasing anal toys. Though they’re safe to use if you’re cautious, always check for cracks and chips before and after use.

Now, if you’re looking for the most intense P-spot pressure, then stainless steel toys like the Njoy Pure Wand are your best bet.

Both glass and metal toys come in handy for temperature play. You can use any type of lube with them. Plus, maintenance and cleanup are super easy (same as silicone dildos).

In terms of length, take note of the total length and insertable length of the prostate dildo.

Total length starts from the tip to the balls or the toy’s base if it has a flared or suction-cup base. In contrast, insertable length is the dildo itself that goes inside you.

The average penis size dildo is 5″-6″ in length and 4.5″-4.75″ in girth. If you’re unsure where to begin, start within these ranges.

If you think they’re too big for your first-time anal play experience, you can start with a slimmer toy. (REMEMBER: Your anal sphincters don’t self-lubricate.)

Of course, make sure that the dildo you choose has a curved shape. This shape is ideal for hitting most penis-having users’ prostate.

Do you want to use your dildo hands-free? If yes, find a prostate dildo with a reliable suction cup base for solo anal play.

If you want some lazy solo fun or long-distance fun with a partner, choose a vibrating toy with a remote control like Blush Impressions N5 vibrating dildo or the We-Vibe Vector prostate massager.

But if you enjoy the actual thrusting in-and-out sensations from your partner (penis- or vagina-owning partners), then find a prostate dildo with a flared base for harness play.


How to Use a Dildo for Prostate Orgasms?

Mindset

As I mentioned, using the right toy is just 1/3 of achieving a prostate orgasm. First, you need to have the right mindset.

Before starting your prostate play journey (or yeah, some anal play fun), RELAX.

Enjoy a soothing bath, play your fave music, choose your fave essential oil and turn on your diffuser, get a massage — anything that’ll make you chill out.

Hygiene

Next, clean around your anal area. Once done, do something that gets you in the mood.

For solo play, you can watch porn or listen to erotic audiobooks. For couples play, you can make out with your partner, touch erogenous zones, etc.

When you get an erection, you’re ready for the second requirement to prostate orgasm. And that’s using the right lube.

Lube

Apply your preferred lube in your anus and on your dildo.

Silicone lube like Uberlube is generally the best for anal penetration because it’s long-lasting and thick for added comfort. However, it’s best for stainless steel or glass dildo use only.

WARNING: Never use silicone lubes on your silicone toys, or they might cause irreversible damage.

If you’re going to use a silicone prostate dildo, make sure to choose hybrid lubes like Sliquid Silk that lasts longer than water-based lubes but won’t damage your toy.

Insertion

Now, breathe in, breathe out. Then, breathe in again, and insert a lubricated finger until you reach around 3″ inside.

Push your finger toward your penis. You will feel a small hard lump there. Remember that spot, so it’s easier to find it with your dildo.

Remove your finger and finally insert your lubricated dildo. Or you can stretch some more using a good butt plug if you want to use a bigger toy.

Now, start masturbating, and be sure to point the dildo tip toward your P-spot. Keep masturbating until you cum.

That’s how you end your prostate O journey.


Final Thoughts 

Taking the long and winding prostate O journey is no one-way street.

There’s gonna be a lot of twists and turns, requiring more practice and effort.

But with the right mindset, process, lube, and toy, you’ll get more chances of finding this spot for out-of-this-world pleasure!

Dainis Graveris

Dainis Graveris

With over 2 year experience working in a local adult toy store Dainis has gathered quite a bit of experience about helping people find the best for their needs. He's also a top writer on Quora (7M views, 2.3K followers) and has written over 70+ guides on SexualAlpha. Read More

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