21 Best Lesbian Sex Toys: Dildos, Vibrators, Strap Ons & More

Hungry for sex toys? Whet your appetite (and wet your pussy) by browsing this complete buffet of the best lesbian sex toys.

Best Lesbian Sex Toys

Whatever you’re craving, this sex toy round-up will satisfy.

Start off with some clitoral stimulation, clear the pallet with a pair of nipple clamps, and then fill up on full penetration toys.

All the delights at this feast are chosen especially for the lesbian woman’s pleasure. 

To make browsing easier, we’ve divided the sections into clitoral stimulation, penetrative toys, strapon for lesbians, and a few bonus toys.

Now that’s a full spread 😉

Top Lesbian Sex Toys In 2021

Lovehoney Earth & Fire

Lovehoney Earth & Fire


Price: $$
Material: Silicone
Length: 6.5”
Circumference: 4.5”
Color: Red, orange & yellow tie-dye

Lovehoney Ignite Finger Vibrator

Lovehoney Ignite Finger Vibrator


Price: $$
Material: Silicone
Size: 3”
Vibration Modes: 3 speeds, 17 patterns
Color: Neon Pink

Tantus Feeldoe Classic

Tantus Feeldoe Classic


Price: $$$
Material: Silicone
Dildo Length: 6”
Dildo Circumference: ~4.7”
Color: Purple

5 Best Clitoral Stimulation Toys & Vibrators For Lesbians

All sex toy buffets must begin with the love button.

The clit is a luscious, little organ that inspires lovers, poets and toy-makers alike. 

Lovehoney Ignite Finger Vibrator

1. Lovehoney Ignite finger vibrator

Best finger accessory

Material: Silicone | Size: 3” | Color: Neon Pink | Vibration Modes: 3 speeds, 17 patterns | Price: $30

  • Conveniently attaches to finger
  • Large variety of vibration patterns
  • Water-proof
  • USB Rechargeable
  • Can be difficult to reach the button 

Entice your lady with tingle tipped fingers. Shaped like a wave to pet the clit with love it deserves.

A stretchy finger hole lets you attach this vibrator easily to your pointer, so you can stroke without it slipping out of your hands.

This finger attachment is great to use during penetrative sex since you can put it on and forget about it… until the moment you want to heighten pleasure!

It’s easy to navigate between the various vibration rhythms and speeds.

But, depending on your position, it can take a bit of maneuvering to push the button with your free hand. 

It also makes a “handy” little gadget for solo play! 

RockHer Scissoring Vibrator

2. RockHer Scissoring

Best for shared vibrations

Material: Silicone | Size: 2.75” bulbous end, 1.26” O-ring | Color: Purple | Vibration Modes: 10 modes | Price: $75 

  • Two-way clit stimulation
  • Enhances scissoring
  • Wireless remote control
  • Tiny, won’t fill you up
  • One button remote – can’t go back a setting
  • Doesn’t fit all anatomies 

This gem lets you get close and intimate. Specifically designed for scissoring, this vibrator lets you both ride the pleasure, hands-free.

Stroke, kiss and hold each other tight while sharing the vibes.

To use, one partner inserts the bulbous end, which will reach the G-spot. The O-ring extends out to encircle her clitoris.

The other partner will climb aboard, placing her clitoris against the O-ring too.

Now you can play with the controls to find the perfect vibration among the 3 steady and 7 patterned options.

If you can’t reach both your clits, turn the toy around. Insert the O-ring to act as an anchor and you can both grind up on the bulbous end, where the vibes are stronger anyway.

This toy can be great in other positions too.

You can stick the bulbous end up your girlfriend’s pussy to tease her G-spot and spread her labia while you go down on her. She’ll wiggle with yumm.

Fantasy For Her Vibrating Pussy Pump And Tongue Vibrator Kit

3. Her Ultimate Pleasure Kit by Fantasy for Her

Best multipurpose vibrating toy

Material: Silicone | Size: 5” insertable, 4.25” circumference | Color: Purple | Vibration Modes: 10 vibrating, 3 suction & 7 tongue licking patterns | Price: $135

  • 3-in-1 sex toy
  • Optional TPE tongue sleeve for added texture
  • Waterproof
  • Loud
  • More difficult to suction hairy vulva

This sex toy looks weird, but it does a lot of interesting things very well – it licks, sucks and vibes. Use each part separately or combine for total orgasm madness. 

Begin with the suction cup that better fits your vulva (it comes with 2).

It creates a delicious sucking sensation that increases sensitivity in your vulva and clit. 

Next, turn on the soft silicone tongue. It provides long strokes, quick flicks or anything in between with 7 settings to choose from.

Keep the pump on and it will gently pull the tongue into your pussy, caressing your clit in the most delicious patterns.

After you’ve cum once, flip that sucker around and insert the handle — it works as a 10-speed vibrator. Stimulate your G-spot for another round of pleasure! 

Being waterproof, this is also a great bathtub toy.

We-Vibe Tango Lipstick Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator

4. We-Vibe Tango Lipstick Rechargeable Bullet Vibrator

Best bullet vibrator

Material: PC ABS thermoplastic | Size: 3.5” length, 2.25” circumference | Color: Pink, Blue | Vibration Modes: 8 modes | Price: $80 

  • Quiet, but powerful
  • Built-in memory remembers last pattern used
  • Holds charge for 2 hours
  • Not big enough for G-spot access

Every proper toy box needs a bullet vibrator. They are small, discreet and easy to throw in your purse (cause ya never know…). 

And this vibrator —all dressed up like a lipstick — is the best bullet. 

It provides deep, rumbling vibrations (none of that buzzy stuff) but is quiet as a whisper. Its sleek shape and angled tip aren’t just there for the visual appeal.

They provide both broad and pointed stimulation options to please your clit in various modes ranging from light to very intense vibrations, waves and pulses. 

Coming with a powerful motor, this little sex accessory can be used all over the body. And it’s waterproof, so you can stash it next to your rubber ducky. 

Lovehoney Classic Plug-In Massage Wand Vibrator

5. Lovehoney Classic Plug-In Massage Wand Vibrator

Best wand vibrator

Material: Silicone, ABS plastic | Size: 13” length, 7.5” circumference | Vibration Modes: Multiple speeds | Color: Black or white | Price: $70 

  • Classic look
  • Strong vibrations
  • Covers a broad surface area
  • More attachments available
  • Scroll wheel adjuster
  • LOUD
  • Must be plugged in
  • Keep away from water!

Another classic and the cadillac of vibrators: the massage wand is a must!

This style originated as an actual muscle massager, but the pleasure was too great to reserve for sore backs…

The beauty of the wand is that the surface area is huge.

The vibrations can fully embrace you or your partner’s entire vulva for a broad range of sensations.

Include the clit, labia, vestibule and vaginal opening in your vibration play! 

Plus, since this wand is a plug-in, it comes with loads of oomph — much more than battery-powered toys (though that wire might get in the way sometimes). 

The scroll wheel makes it easy to adjust speeds, even in the midst of explosive pleasure!

If you’re looking for a vibrator with real power, this wand is for you. Extra bonus – you can use it on your sore neck too!

4 Best Strap-on Dildos For Lesbians

Besides being harness compatible, our favorite strap-on dildos can also be handheld or suction-cupped to the floor or wall. 

They aren’t realistic looking and all are made from top-quality silicone that is safe for the body and easy to keep clean.

Lovehoney Earth And Fire Suction Cup Dildo

1. Lovehoney Earth and Fire

Best vibrating strap-on dildo

Material: Silicone | Length: 6.5” | Circumference: 4.5” | Color: Red, orange & yellow tie-dye | Price : $30

  • Bullet vibrator fits in base
  • Unusual & bright color range
  • Great for G-spot 
  • Bigger bullet not compatible with suction cup
  • Not for size queens

This bright burst of fun provides an eruption of pleasure!

The average thickness and size are not too intimidating but still fill you pleasantly.

Soft and curved, this dildo probes the G-spot and feels great to grip with your vagina. 

Add an extra dimension by inserting a standard small bullet into the base (not included). 

Avant Pride P3 Silicone Strap On Dildo

2. Avant Pride P3

Most attractive & beginner friendly strap-on

Material: Silicone | Length: 5.5” | Circumference: ~4” | Color: Red and pink shades | Price: $31

  • Approachable for the penetration wary
  • Not very flexible
  • Too small for some
  • Not great for G-spot

This smaller size dildo is great for those who don’t like to be filled up by penetration. 

The head is smaller than the shaft, making initial penetration easier and the greatest width is still not terribly wide (1.25” in diameter). It’s stubby size makes this dildo stiffer than others. 

The attractive stripes (sporting the lesbian pride colors!) and the soft feel add up to a friendly and approachable toy.

Perfect to explore strap-on sex with a partner!

Avant D4 G-Spot Silicone Strap On Dildo

3. Avant D4

Best big strap on dildo

Material: Silicone | Length: 7” | Circumference:5.25” | Color: Pink and black | Price: $53

  • Nice girth
  • Extra sensation thanks to wavy design 
  • Goes deep for cervical stimulation
  • Matte texture requires ample lube

If you like it deep and full, this dildo will deliver. While not massive, it is big enough to pleasantly fill. 

The full head is great for those who like the initial gasp of a big insert and the ridge around the head is designed to tug nicely at the G-spot.

Meanwhile, the “hills” in the design mean you can rotate the dildo for different sensations. 

The length is also good for those who enjoy some cervical stimulation without being poky. 

Wet For Her Small Pink Silicone Strap On Dildo

4. Wet For Her Small Pink

Best small strap-on

Material: Silicone | Length: 4.75” | Circumference: ~3.5” | Color: Pink, black, purple | Price: $55

  • Non-realistic
  • Small (also comes in medium and large sizes)
  • Not good for girth seekers

For a teeny tiny delight, this smooth sweetness still delivers the goods. Supple to the touch and simple in design. 

Great for those who like smaller penetration, but with a wide enough base to fit snugly into a harness — so you can still get frisky. 

Lesbian Strapless Strap-Ons & Double Ended Dildos

Double-ended dildos are glorious toys that provide for mutual penetration with lots of skin on skin contact.

While it can take some serious kegel muscles to hold the bulb in place, you can always use a harness for extra support. 

Tantus Feeldoe Classic

1. Tantus Feeldoe Classic

Best lesbian strapless strap-on

Material: Silicone | Dildo length: 6” | Dildo circumference: ~4.7” | Bulb length: 2.5” | Bulb circumference: ~4.7” | Color: Purple | Price: $90

  • Single-speed removable bullet
  • Use with or without a strap-on
  • Smaller size available too
  • Takes training to use without a harness

Designed especially to be used without a harness, the Tantus Feeldoe is a super sexy skin-on-skin experience.

Insert the bulbous end in your pussy, grip tight and slip the dildo into your lady. Angled for her pleasure, you’ll love seeing her shudder with gratification. 

This is the strapless strap-on that started the market and these are made specifically for woman-with-woman play.

Wet For Her Union (Small)

2. Wet for Her Union (Small)

Best strapless strap-on for angles

Material: Silicone & ABS Plastic | Dildo Length: 6” | Dildo Circumference: 3.33” | Bulb Length: 3” | Bulb Circumference: 4.55” | Color: Purple, pink or black | Price: $110

  • 5-speed removable bullet
  • Ridged hump for wearer’s pleasure
  • Internal copper wire facilitates bending & shape memory
  • Comes in 3 sizes (small, medium large)
  • Ridged hump inaccessible if used with a harness

The perk of the Union Double Ended dildo is that both ends are fully bendable, making it easier to find the right angle for both you and your partner.

It’s a new strapless dildo that has been gaining popularity in lesbian market – it’s worth a closer look.

Dorcel Real Double Do

3. Dorcel Real Double Do

Best double ended dildo

Material: Silicone | Length: 16.5” | Circumference: ~4.7” | Color: Pink or black | Price: $56

  • Flexible
  • Thick
  • May be too big for some 

You can go on some real adventures with this double ended dildo. 

One end is slightly bigger than the other, but this snaky toy allows for both you and your girl to experience full penetration.

It bends all over, so you can experiment with fun (and weird) positions. 

Since you can both thrust with this toy, take turns being in charge. A great toy to play together with!

Fetish Fantasy Double Delight Strap-On Set

4. Fetish Fantasy Double Delight Strap-On Set

Best strap-on double dildo

Material: PVC | Length: 6” on either side | Circumference: 4.75” | Color: Black | Price: $60

  • Vibrates
  • 2 remote controls: one for each side
  • Bonus: blackout blindfold included
  • Porous, not fully sanitizable material
  • Straps may be too tight
  • Batteries not included

If you’re after a serious romp, this double-ended dildo will take you and your partner for a crazy ride. Both dildos are curved for G-spot penetration and both vibrate.

They are independently controlled, so you can swap remotes and let the teasing begin.

This double dildo set promises one helluva party!

Strap-on Harness And Kits

The harness is the essential accessory that can make or break the strap-on experience.

A good harness will accommodate a wide range of dildos, so you can experiment with many toys.

Spareparts Joque Harness

1. Spareparts Joque Harness

Best overall harness

Material: Poly-spandex and mesh | Adjustability: 20” to 50” | O-Ring: build-in, stretchy 1.25-2.25”| Color: Red, black or purple front | Price: $150 | Special Features: 2 bullet pockets, 

  • Secure and comfortable
  • Second-skin soft
  • Flexible O-ring
  • 2 bullet pockets above and below O-ring 
  • Machine washable
  • Rump access
  • Restricted vaginal access
  • Can’t accommodate really big dildos
  • Pricetag

The sexy and versatile Joque Harness is comfortable, durable, and effective. It’s made from a breathable material that is silky soft and looks sexy.

And best of all?

You can get truly uncivilized with this harness – it will remain secure, like an extension of your own body.

A flexible O-ring holds a wide range of dildo sizes — so you don’t have to swap out rings every time you swap out dildos.

Plus, a convenient flap behind the O-ring wraps around the base of the dildo to prevent chafing and hair-pulling.

And, this same flap can open to accommodate a strapless strap-on for two-way penetration.

An all-around great harness for all your strap-on adventures! 

Now let’s get to the dildos.

Tantus Intermediate Vibrating Strap-On Harness Kit

2. Tantus Intermediate Vibrating Strap-On Harness Kit

Best full kit

Harness Material : Nylon | Adjustability: 15-60” | O-rings: 2 sizes 1.25” and 1.5” | Dildo Material: Silicone | Length: 5”, 6.5” | Circumference: 3.5”, 4.5” | Color: Black or purple | Price: $90

  • Sleek look
  • 2 dildos and vibrating bullet included
  • Great value for the money
  • Weird bullet placement
  • Very subtle curve

If you want to keep things simple and still experience the full penetrative experience, the Tantus Kit is a great option.

With a harness, 2 dildos and a one-speed bullet vibrator, you’ll be sure to ring all the bells.

Warm your gal up with the smaller silicone dildo and graduate to the bigger size, as she begs for more! The bulbous head and smooth body are subtly curved to reach for a G-spot. 

The strong nylon harness features a velvet padded front for a soft pelvic experience. It will give you total control over your pleasure without rubbing you the wrong way. 

The bullet can buzz hard enough to send vibrations up the shaft of the dildo. Though, some may find it awkwardly placed.

You can always remove it and use it as a handheld vibrator. 

Lovehoney Take Control Bondage Kit

3. Lovehoney Take Control Bondage Kit

Best bondage kit

Material: Faux leather & nylon | Harness Adjustability: Up to 65” | O-rings: 3 | Color: Black and purple | Dildo Material: Silicone | Length: 6” | Circumference: 4.75” | Vibrator Modes: 10 settings | Price: $110

  • All you need in one kit
  • High quality, good value 
  • Cuffs can cause chaffing 

Kink up your sex play with a full bondage kit. Great for beginners, this 10-piece set lets you explore and play with a variety of BDSM accessories. 

It includes: harness, dildo, o-rings, 10-mode vibrator, under-bed restraints, 4 cuffs, breathable ball gag, blindfold, flogger & 2 nipple suckers.

Cuff your woman to the bed, tickle her with the flogger and then bend her over for a deep punishment! 

With so many toys, you can get really creative.

Play with sensory deprivation, or repurpose the nipple suckers for some clitoral suction! 

Add Extra Spice With These 5 Bonus Sex Toys

Njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo (G-Spot Stimulation)

1. Njoy Pure Wand Stainless Steel Dildo

Best for G-spot stimulation

Material: Stainless steel | Length: 9” | Circumference: 3.15” and 4.7” | Color: Silver | Price: $150

  • Artistic, sexy look
  • Perfectly curved for G-spot 
  • Temperature play: holds heat and cold
  • Nice heavy weight
  • Cold to start with

This beautiful steel arc feels more like having sex with a beautifully crafted piece of art than with a dildo. If G-spot stimulation is your thing, you will fall in love. 

It is very simple to use and has two bullet sizes to experiment with.

The weight and precision of this wand allow you to really feel it inside your pussy. This wand is known as the #1 toy that has caused more squirting orgasms than any other (more choices in our best vibrator for squirting guide).


Stainless steel is a great material, but it’s cold. So if you aren’t into the temperature play – let it sit in the warm water for a moment. 

Velvet Thruster Mini

2. Velvet Thruster Mini

Best mini thrusting machine

Material: Silicone | Length: 5” insertable,  9” tota | Speeds: 6 | Color: Black, Mint, Lilac or Maroon | Price: $150

  • Great color choices
  • Super flexible shaft
  • Suction cup base
  • Can thrust up to 125 strokes per minute
  • Loud Motor

If you get your thrill from some serious thrusting, this mini fuck machine will give you a severe pounding — in a Fuck YEA kind of way. 

The mechanics of this toy is that it actually moves up and down in a thrusting motion.

If your arms get tired while plunging in and out of your girlfriend, Teddy can take some of the edge off. 

It has 6 speeds combined with 2.5” of powerful thrust. The shaft can bend up to 30° to reach for those pleasurable spots!

Oh, and you get 10% off using code ALPHA10.

Entice Tiered Intimate Nipple Clamps

3. Entice Tiered Intimate Nipple Clamps

Best nipple clamps

Type: Crocodile clips | Material: Nickel-free metal, PVC cushioning | Pain Rating: Gentle | Adjustable: Yes | Color: Rose Gold | Special Features: Double-tiered chain | Price: $20 

  • Suitable for beginners
  • Attractive design
  • Chain play
  • Don’t get super tight
  • Difficult to adjust 

We’d be remiss if we didn’t mention nipple toys.

Nipples are intensely erotic and incorporating nipple clamps can heighten any sexual encounter. 

This flattering set provokes a wide range of erotic sensations.

The feel of the chain swaying against your skin and the sound it makes bouncing up and down add to the sensuality.

The screws make these easy to adjust: just twist.

These clamps won’t bite too hard, but you can tease your partner by giving the chain a light tug to increase pressure. 

Icicles No 48 Medium Butt Plug

4. Icicles No 48 Medium Butt Plug

Best beginners plug

Material: Glass | Length: 3” | Circumference: 4” | Color: Pink | Price: $30

  • Hand blown
  • Smooth and feminine
  • Temperature play
  • On the smaller side

Don’t forget about the butt — it appreciates some lovin’ too! Adding in a bit of anal stimulation can heighten the sensations of any other toy. 

For the butt plug beginner, try Icicles pretty glass flower.

The teardrop bulb will help you ease it in while the wide base prevents unwanted deep travel.

Pro-tip: Once inserted your butt plug will stay tight.

Now introduce a strap-on for double penetration pleasure.

The butt plug will make your vagina tighter and more responsive to all the dildo sensations. 

Lovehoney Jeweled Metal Large Butt Plug 3.5 Inch

5. Lovehoney Jeweled Metal Large Butt Plug 3.5 Inch 

Best advanced plug

Material: Metal | Length: 3.5” | Circumference: 5” | Color: Silver | Price: $35

  • Nice weight (331 g)
  • Bejeweled base
  • Smooth and pretty
  • Temperature play
  • Not for the newbie

For the advanced anal artist, the girth and weight of this beauty will be deeply satisfying. The heavy sensation is amazing

The body-safe metal is sleek and tapered for easy entry. You’ll still want to keep the lube around because this plug is BIG

Where to Buy The Best Lesbian Sex Toys

When shopping for sex toys choose reputable sex-shops and retailers here are the best places we recommend

  • Lovehoney is a great online outlet with a huge inventory. 
  • Shevibe has lots of pretty colors, including pride options. 
  • Wetforher is made by women for women!

The sex toy buffet is open. I hope you’re hungry!

With so many of the best lesbian sex toys to play with, how do you pick the right one for you?

Remember sex toys are just that — toys! So go for the ones that look like fun. And don’t be afraid to push your boundaries a little.

Experimentation leads to some delectable surprises. You may just find a new, mind-blowing sensation you never knew existed!

Dainis Graveris

Dainis Graveris

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